Divorce and suicide

	posted by Adam on Sunday January 18, @02:54PM from the don't-get-married-or-have-kids-if-you're-a-man dept.
	Matt writes "Mention of the correlation between divorce and suicide, in an unlikely place, about half-way down the page: here An interesting footnote to this study was the discovery of a strong correlation between the rates of suicide and divorce. Alas it fails to mention the much higher number of men than women who kill themselves after a divorce."

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This IS MSN... (Score:2) by frank h on Monday January 19, @08:18AM EST (#1) (User #141 Info) We are, of course, talking about MSN. Why are you surprised?

interesting... (Score:1) by **SkipKent** on Tuesday January 20, @01:24PM EST (#2) (User #1523 Info) I think in some ways that men take a much bigger 'leap' against their everyday nature when getting married than women do. I know for me that getting married was more a fearful act of will than the 'joyous celebration of love' that it is, apparently, for some others! Maybe my case was strange, but the love and sincere respect I had for my wife-to-be aside, my head was very full of all the things (and women ; ) I would never again be allowed to 'do' once I crossed that bridge into marriage. Having crossed the bridge, I must say that 90% of my fears have either evaporated or been balanced in kind by an unexpected level of comfort in and appreciation for my present married state. The limitations imposed free internal resources for other uses. Now, on the rare occasions when I go to a bar with friends, I can enjoy my beer, some dirty jokes and look at a few 'hotties' without having to worry about 'playing the game' for real. I didn't realize until now just how exhausting and humiliating that game was! Having made that adjustment, I think that if we were to get divorced a year from now over some explosive difference, I would be thrown into a great deal more turmoil than she. She has much more of a natural internal and external support network for dealing with the pain of splitting, and she, coming into the marriage, may well have had a more inflated fantasy of what marriage would be, and may have actually experience some degree of disappointment with the reality of marriage where I found unexpected pleasures. Her pain would seem the greater as she would probably express it much more openly, but in the end I think it is more comman that the man, who enters the situation expecting the worst, who is most deeply disrupted when the situation is reversed again. Like a tropical fish that is gradually aclimated to cooler water, and then suddenly thrown back into into warm. The fish is quite likely to die of shock.

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