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Sticks and Stones: Revisited
posted by Nightmist on Wednesday December 19, @03:45PM
from the false-accusations dept.
False Accusations My apologies for the rerun here, but considering that the The Guy Code removed my column from their archives, I thought I would repost it with its new URL. Here, for posterity, is my own trial-by-fire with the phenomenon known to us as "false accusations."

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Excellent Article (Score:1)
by Thomas on Wednesday December 19, @03:59PM EST (#1)
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A very fine piece, Nightmist. Thanks for sharing this with us. False accusations have become a reign of terror against men. None of us are safe.
wow (Score:0)
by Anonymous User on Wednesday December 19, @06:26PM EST (#2)

What a disaster. It's sad if our legal system makes it safer for a man to sit in a room by
himself than to be with a woman. Time to start talking about this, to women especially and loudly if necessary (but keep a few witnesses handy to avoid false accusations).
Re:wow (Score:2)
by Nightmist (nightmist@mensactivism.org) on Wednesday December 19, @06:44PM EST (#3)
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(but keep a few witnesses handy to avoid false accusations).

I say if you're going to argue with a potentially accusatory individual, make *damn sure* you do it in public. That's pretty much been my philosophy ever since those days.


Re:wow (Score:2)
by Trudy W Schuett on Wednesday December 19, @11:04PM EST (#12)
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Problem is, you don't always know who that accusatory individual is going to be. And you don't hafta be a guy, either.

Sadder But Wiser
Re:wow (Score:2)
by Nightmist (nightmist@mensactivism.org) on Thursday December 20, @01:13AM EST (#13)
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Problem is, you don't always know who that accusatory individual is going to be. And you don't hafta be a guy, either.

That's true. It can happen to anyone. And in these days of guilty until proven innocent, the accuser is more often taken at their word if the accusations revolves around violence or sexual assault (particularly if the accused is male and the accuser is female).

Wow. (Score:1)
by LadyRivka (abrouty@wells.edu) on Wednesday December 19, @06:51PM EST (#4)
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Good points, all! No one should have to suffer slander (or is it libel?) just because someone automatically sees someone as a "victim". Good job. :)
"Female men's activist" is not an oxymoron.
Re:Wow. (Score:2)
by Nightmist (nightmist@mensactivism.org) on Wednesday December 19, @07:01PM EST (#5)
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Good points, all! No one should have to suffer slander (or is it libel?)

It's "slander" when spoken and "libel" when written.

Re:Wow. (Score:1)
by Steve on Wednesday December 19, @07:15PM EST (#7)
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Hi, Nightmist!

I am angry that the editor of The Guy Code removed your article from the archives. I like your article. I considered writing for that publication, but, after the way you were treated, I decided not to pursue the issue. Besides, said editor never acknowledged any of the e-mail messages I sent to him.

FWIW, I am exploring writing for other online men's publications, and the editor of one of them has asked me to send him an outline for a proposed article.

Peace to all.

Steve Imparl

A Paper Publication? (Score:2)
by frank h on Wednesday December 19, @08:56PM EST (#8)
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Ya know, I'd really like to see a male/masculinity-friendly men's magazine, even if it was published on newsprint. If there's someone out there interested in fronting one, I'd be happy to subscribe.

Frank
Re:A Paper Publication? (Score:2)
by Nightmist (nightmist@mensactivism.org) on Wednesday December 19, @09:02PM EST (#9)
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I'd love to start one, Frank, but I'd need investors as well as advertisers (at least in the beginning) to do it. Subscriptions just about pay the electric bill.


Re:A Paper Publication? (Score:1)
by Thomas on Wednesday December 19, @09:21PM EST (#10)
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I'd need investors as well as advertisers.

Might want to wait a few months on this idea for exactly that reason. Magazines are having a terrible time right now, in large part because of a dramatic dropoff in advertising revenue. I'm a writer, so I'm acutely aware of this as are my writer-friends.

I do like the idea, though. I wonder whom one would approach for advertising revenue.
Re:A Paper Publication? (Score:2)
by Nightmist (nightmist@mensactivism.org) on Wednesday December 19, @09:45PM EST (#11)
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Might want to wait a few months on this idea for exactly that reason. Magazines are having a terrible time right now, in large part because of a dramatic dropoff in advertising revenue. I'm a writer, so I'm acutely aware of this as are my writer-friends.

I work at a newspaper. BELIEVE me, we're aware of this, too.

Sucks.

Re:A Paper Publication? (Score:1)
by Scott (scott@mensactivism.org) on Thursday December 20, @06:28AM EST (#14)
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Frank, there are some men's organizations that put out journals and newsletters in print. One of which I was extremely impressed with was the Everyman Journal.

Of course, these are almost completely focused on men's rights - perhaps you were referring to a more general interest magazine for men, sans the male bashing found in so many these days?

Scott
Re:Wow. (Score:1)
by Thomas on Wednesday December 19, @07:09PM EST (#6)
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"Female men's activist" is not an oxymoron.

Happily, this is very, very true. It may simply be because it's safer for women to speak out, but it seems to me that there are at least as many women leading the egalitarian movement as men.
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