Australia: No choice to walk away: When the domestic abuser is your child

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'Although she feels isolated in her predicament, Sally is far from alone. The little research available on adolescent domestic violence offenders suggests the numbers are significant, though under-reported, and are rising at about the same rate as adult-perpetrated domestic violence.

In NSW, domestic violence incidents involving juvenile offenders make up about 5 per cent of the total incidents reported, but anecdotal evidence suggests most parents will only engage authorities in desperation and as a last resort.

Last year's Victorian Royal Commission into Family Violence found about two-thirds of juvenile offenders were male, and 80 per cent of victims were their mothers.

Adolescent psychologist Michael Carr-Gregg says he is concerned about a connection between violence against mothers and a broader trend of growing disrespect among young males.'

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I believe it

Sometimes I got uppity and rude with my mother when growing up. Never as bad as the kid reported here, but bad enough. Then who straightened my ass out when mom couldn't? DAD. Oh I recall the trouble I got into for being too rude to mom. Dad got pissed as Hell and when I wasn't listening to mom, you can be sure I listened to dad -- or else.

Women raising sons alone is by and large a disaster. The lack of paternal, masculine authority leaves boys with no boundaries for one thing and a lot of resentment for another at being without their fathers. For a lot of single mothers, h@ving a child on their own is all about a Big Fuck You to men-kind. But the price paid for the luxury of proudly proclaiming oneself a Single Mother is high indeed for the mother and the child. Oh not to say it can't be done. Not to say there are not a few success stories scattered here and there. Just to say that *in general*, raising kids in a single-parent (esp. a single-mother) home is an uphill battle fraught with hazards that do not need to be there, a lot worse when raising one or more sons. But because some girl drank the Kool-Aid, both she and her kids have to pay the price.

Roosting chickens... roosting chickens...

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Nailed it

Matt wrote: " For a lot of single mothers, h@ving a child on their own is all about a Big Fuck You to men-kind."

Yep.

So how do you raise a good son with that kind of attitude?

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My father volunteers at a

My father volunteers at a men's prison as a mentor and life coach. He says most of the world's problems that politicians always mention and want to spend tax dollars on like addiction, homelessness, crime, incarceration rates, getting young people educated, etc could all be greatly improved if we could prevent single motherhood.

I also credit my dad to saving both me and my brother (we were adopted). We came into the family with a bunch of social and behavioral problems, but my brother had them far worse than me as I think boys re more susceptible to these issues which likely stem from no early bonding and chaotic home life.

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Agreed

Matt wrote: " For a lot of single mothers, h@ving a child on their own is all about a Big Fuck You to men-kind."

No doubt about this. I think widows fare a lot better than single mothers by choice. The son will grow up knowing, after all, that his father did not willfully abandon him, and that memory will help him get through life (AND, he will have more respect for his mother). Baby-mommas by choice, on the other hand, are as you say giving the middle finger to all manhood, and their sons sense that and harbor a resentment for it. Widows deserve their sons' respect, and others' support. Baby mommas don't.

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