"Father's Controversial Photo Shows Him 'Just Being a Dad'"

Submitted by Matt on Mon, 2014-12-15 03:52

Article here. Excerpt:

'What does a night in the life of a dad look like? For 28-year-old Jon Arrigo, who posted a picture on Reddit last week entitled “Just being a dad,” it looks pretty good: Playing video games, snuggling with one daughter while getting his toenails painted by the other.
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Responses to the photo were mixed. Some commenters noted that letting his daughter paint his nails demonstrated Arrigo’s willingness to have a little fun. “That’s awesome, no shame in making your kids happy, this warmed my heart up :)” wrote user Sasha_Fire. “I hope so much that if/when my [significant other] and I decide to have children he’s this awesome of a parent,” echoed Kmccain9. 

But others questioned Arrigo’s choice to play video games instead of engaging with his kids. “This looks less like multitasking and much more like an amazing ability to ignore his kids,” writes Farren246. “I understand kids are infuriating at times but here it looks like they are being well behaved. Why not interact with them a little? The game will be there when they’re in bed,” says HyperactiveToast.'

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Replace the game controller with a newspaper and he'd still be "doing it wrong". If his daughter were on his lap, he'd be a pedophile, a molester of his own children. As for letting his daughter paint his toenails, well, dads have been letting their little daughters tie ribbons in their hair, braid their hair, and do such things for millenia all in an effort to connect with them in a way their daughters want to and relate to. But these days, well, it's a sign of *weirdness* if not perversion.

Ever hear the one-liner, "If a man says something in the middle of a forest and his wife's not there to hear it, is he still wrong?" Add to that something far more frequently true: "If a man does anything with his kids, is he doing it right?" Add being besieged by an endless barrage of female criticism of any parenting men do to already-lengthy list of reasons men are increasingly eschewing marriage, paternity, or bothering to try to assume more child-minding duties at home. After all, who wants to be asked to do something only to be roundly accused of incompetence doing it by the person doing the asking -- not just at the beginning of things but for years onward. And just what makes the asker always so "right" anyway about it?

Silly me, why bother asking.

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Submitted by Matt on Mon, 2014-12-15 03:56