In Defense Of Gold Diggers: It's Not Always What It Seems

Submitted by Mastodon on Wed, 2014-11-19 23:03

Article here. Excerpt:

'When we talk about currency, we talk about the gold standard. When we talk about women who use men for personal gain, we talk about gold diggers. Today I'm here to talk about another gold standard -- a double one, the one by which men look for women with beaucoup bucks, and the standard by which men rarely get cited for their own parasitic and gold digging ways.
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But, by the same token, women like myself who are supported almost entirely by the alimony and child support awarded them from their prior marriage do have a problem that goes by largely unnoticed. And that's the inability to consider marrying a man of lesser means, a man who will be unable to support her once she loses that main source of her income.
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Unlike so many others, I'm fortunate because my divorce settlement affords me some time. Time to heal my emotional wounds, and time to nurture and grow the career I know I was always meant to have. With that said, I wear handcuffs, and not the 50 Shades of Grey kind. My handcuffs are golden, and they prevent me, to a large extent, from dating men with any real eye to the future whose earnings will not allow me to consider leaving the security I presently have, the security I earned by forgoing a potentially lucrative career to stay home and raise my children while my then husband built his own.
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I would like nothing more than to meet some hunky contractor who not only can rock my world but who can do home repairs as well. What a little slice of heaven on Earth that would be! Or a middle management executive who leaves work at a reasonable hour, doesn't need to travel for his job, and isn't always attached to his email. But right now, that's simply not a risk I can afford to take.

It's not that I want what's yours. It's that I don't know if I can give up what's mine.'

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Nothing need be said to this except that indeed... nothing need be said. Well, not by me, anyway. But if you're of a mind to it, go ahead, have fun.

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Submitted by Matt on Sat, 2014-11-22 03:00

Another woman who's got a 100 excuses why she isn't self-supporting, why she needs to continue to leach off a man, even after the lavish alimony and child support end. And she's got a law degree and is quite capable of supporting herself ... but no, she has to be supported in style.

It's good that this kind of drivel gets published... shows more men how a lot of women approach marriage - opportunistically. In other words, they ask themselves, "what can I get out of this guy?" Hopefully more of the guys out there will see that marriage is now a dangerous and ill-advised venture for men, and stop being so idealistic about "love."

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Submitted by redwoodwriter on Sat, 2014-11-22 07:25

Feminists once famously told us that "women need men like a fish needs a bicycle."

At one time, feminists used this thought to argue that women don't need alimony. Of course, that was a long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away. They soon came up with an acceptable feminist argument: women are simply being compensated for the money they gave up when they choose to marry and take care of the kids. I've observed, however, that they never make the reciprocal argument: that the actual money they received from their husbands should be deducted from the theoretical money they gave up.

What feminists should have said is that women don't need men--just their money. Which means their "independence" is once again made possible by their dependence on men. In other words, fish really do need bicycles after all.

And the more I think about it, women are like fish in a lot of ways, especially olfactory. :)

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Submitted by el cid on Sun, 2014-11-23 04:47