Matt writes "This article condemns "metrosexuality". No surprise it was off-linked from msn.com's Hotmail opening page.
I submitted a comment as written here, and also sent it to the author of this lovely little tract whose e-mail address is found at the bottom of the article she wrote.
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For decades men have been scolded to be more like women. Some have become that way, and now they are condemned for it?
The underlying phnomenon here is this: When a man stops living to serve women, he is condemned. If he takes care of himself and/or acts as "self-absorbed" as the average woman does, he is also condemned for it. Women want the right of self-absorption and self-care to themseleves. They would rather sit safely on the bleachers watching men hurt themseleves in sports like football for their own entertainment than watch a man be happy and healthy and care for himself. There is nothing wrong with a man taking care of himself as he sees fit.
The mistake men have been making for a long time is that they have been too much taking their cues about what they ought to be from women. Of course if you live for anyone else's opinion of you, you are bound to get caught in a cycle of pleasing/not pleasing that leads to no one's happiness. You must live life the way you think is right for you, and not for anyone else. To not do so is to allow oneself to get caught in a kind of co-dependency, and that is not good because the results are rarely satisfying.
I say this: individual men should be the way they want to be, act as they want to, and live for their own goals. If those include playing football and not 'doing their hair', so be it. If they include spending $1,000/month+ at the spa, so be that, too.
Men should have as much CHOICE as women have in every area that they have it.
Ms. Pressman needs to update her notions of "equality of the sexes" to include men."
