Claude Saint-Jarre sent me a link to an essay that blew me away with its quality and message. Elizabeth Herron and Aaron Kipnis have been collaborating to help end the war between the sexes, and this essay demonstrates that they are really willing to hear both sides of the story, and to validate both men and women while addressing gender issues. Please read this article, if nothing else the examples they have of men and women's complaints strikes a balance like I have never read before. If you're a fan of Warren Farrell, this will certainly interest you.

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Not PC writes "Despite the fact that he he was making weekly child support payments and had visited the support agency's offices twice recently, an Ohio county's child support agency claims that they couldn't find Charles Collins to give him a check for over $20,000 he overpaid. The agency is also trying to get $327,000 in unclaimed child support dollars to some 500 families. What do you bet that this is not an isolated incident? All those in favor of taking away the CS worker's driver's licenses and throwing them in jail, raise your right hand! And then click here for the story."

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This is an excellent study about DV against men committed by women, written by Anne Lewis. The study examines many factors involved in DV against men (powerlessness, feeling trapped, etc.) and does so in a sympathetic way. However, the interviews with the abused men are the most haunting thing in the entire study, and such brutal honesty is hard to take, so don't read the study if you're depressed or feeling uneasy right now. And as Anne says "In giving abused men a voice and the opportunity to tell their stories in an atmosphere of trust, I went on a journey of discovery. As an abused person, I was giving myself a voice. The men's pain became my pain, their injustice my injustice, their anger my anger. I listened to myself as I listened to them, and in helping to free them, I freed myself. My inner processes were facilitated by the validation which I as a woman receive from society, and I sought to bring something of that hope and vision to the men whose stories I was privileged to share." Be certain that you read the study to learn for yourself.

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Kathleen Parker's column in the Orlando Sentinel describes a campaign by Alabama to crack down on deadbeat dads. Ads were taken out in local newspapers which show pictures of deadbeat parents (only one of them, though, is a woman) with the title: "Lost Dogs: Have You Seen Us?" Although the ads are targeting the worst offenders, they still send a powerfully strong anti-male message, and some father's rights groups are planning lawsuits against the state for violating the civil rights of those depicted by the ads. Stuff like this really makes by blood start to boil. I wonder how many more steps can be taken to "beat dead" fathers who owe child support when absolutely nothing is done to ensure the money is actually spent on the child's needs? It just seems too one-sided.

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I've been meaning to post this for a few days now - Trudy Schuett, who has time and time again shown a great deal of compassion and understanding of men's issues, wrote an essay on Themestream about creativity and gender. Her thesis is that the two have no connection, and that people mistakenly believe women are more creative because they give birth. "Creativity comes from the spirit, not from DNA...It's not a chick thing, or a guy thing. In fact, it is precisely the thing that will get us all out of this mess of gender issues, of feminism and masculism and mutual hatred and distrust." Check it out.

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Not PC submitted this link to a news report that the Virginia Military Institute now has its first pregnant female cadet, and it has stirred up a lot of controversy. The Naval Academy policy states that "Pregnancy and parenthood impose significant responsibilities and demands upon midshipmen which are incompatible with service as midshipmen" but the woman (who was not identified in the article) was given three options for living quarters to accommodate her needs. Even women who have attended VMI gave disapproval of this situation, and feel she should either leave or be suspended during the pregnancy. One of them said "Cadets can accumulate demerits and wind up suspended essentially for being late for class and not shining their shoes, and yet this woman is far more irresponsible and gets 'almost preferential treatment.'"

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Here's some news on how Randy Cunningham and James McDermott have been pushing for an Office of Men's Health, and the idea is gaining momentum as it's also being backed by the National Medical Association. However, as they remind us, "Both Congressmen stressed that the creation of an Office of Men's Health would not impinge on the funding or the status for the Office of Women's Health, which was created in 1990" it's a real shame they have to point this out, as it shows that we can never offer to help men without first deferring to women's concerns.

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I'm back - though I could use some sleep. :) The EastSideJournal printed a great story about the way men are systematically ignored in DV awareness campaigns, and points out some of the most prevalent (and false) statistics about DV. From the article: "For years, we have been told that domestic violence is a serious problem: it must not be tolerated in any form and every victim must be believed. Yet, countless victims of domestic violence are ignored by the system, dismissed as liars, and even charged as abusers. These victims have been hit, kicked, punched, bitten, choked, knifed, shot, run over with cars, and even set on fire. They are men."

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Kingsley Morse writes, "Jim Whinston [from the National Center for Men] has a pro-father radio show which is now available worldwide on the web via Real Audio. It's at www.kpsu.org from 6 - 7 PM PST on Thursdays." Click here for the direct link to the Real Audio feed.

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Tom Smith from the American Union of Men wrote up an interesting essay about Eminem, the rap star whose music is currently incredibly popular but which is also extremely vulgar and thus has caused quite a bit of controversy. Tom has been willing to put aside the prejudices about Eminem that the PC media has created and examined his music, and found a tremendous amount of angst related to men's issues (father loss, his own divorce problems, etc). If you're open minded, Tom's article is sure to introduce you to this rapper in a new light. Click "Read More" below for the complete article...

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The National Post printed this story about an organization, the Association for Genital Integrity, which trying to obtain funds to have non-therapeutic male circumcision legally recognized as sexual assault. The argument will rely on an equal protection reasoning, claiming that the current law is discriminatory because it outlaws female genital mutilation but ignores male genital mutilation (circumcision). Some religious groups are concerned about the legal challenge, but it is possible that a religious exemption could be made. Personally, I think the issue at stake is that infant boys have no choice in the matter - if they want to become circumcised when they're old enough to make the decision themselves, that's fine, but I believe they need the choice.

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Trudy Schuett submitted this sickening story from TownHall.com. It's about a women who had a history of drug problems and abusing her husband who eventually received custody of her two young boys. Things were stable for a short while until she took off on a cross-country trip with the boys, along the way cutting and abusing the boys in ways that were blatantly obvious to those around her, but she was never reported to the police by people who saw her. I think it's also clear that this story simply could not have happened had the boys been traveling with their father, and it serves as a disturbing wake up call to end the prejudices about women's incapacity for violence. It's also a good time to ask yourself, what would you have done if you had seen this woman and her children in their physical state on a train?

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Dave Maupin from the Family Violence Prevention Services program in North Carolina wrote in and wanted to ask for help to fight new domestic violence legislation. The law will effectively shut out FVPS from taking on clients referred to them by the courts - because compliance with the new rules would require them to be approved and monitored by politically motivated domestic violence groups. Click "Read More" below to read his message and information regarding the new legislation which will end up harming men, women, and children seeking to overcome family violence.

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This short, fairly superficial transcript from a news program on Australia's ABC network mentions the existence of male rape victims, and the lack of support services for them, but that's about it. There was no comment about what kinds of circumstances male rape occurs (for example, by exposing the high incidence of prison rape), and the woman being interviewed claims that the court system is "patriarchal" and this discourages men from coming forward. So while I wouldn't describe this as progress, it is noteworthy in that something was at least said about male rape, rather than nothing.

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Australia's Daily Telegraph reports that a study was done examining why some elderly men kill themselves, and found that large numbers of them were depressed and were not receiving treatment for depression. "Prof Snowdon's research included reading the notes left by 41 per cent of the suicides and interviewing friends and relatives. Many of the suicide notes were angry and most reflected serious depression, he said." No mention was made as to what could be done to help prevent this from happening.

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